The online dating profile that started it all..

Well batfans,

To give you an idea of what I'm working with, I thought a good place to start would be to post the online profile that I am currently working with. At the bottom of the profile, past all the 'blah blah blah' stuff, you will see the updates that inspired this blog. From this point, all posts will be new 'updates' or answers to any questions I get, or stories from other batreaders.

To answer the question: Where do I have this profile? Well, in two places. Plentyoffish.com which is a free online networking/dating site, and craigslist. Yes, you read that right, craigslist. Why do I do that to myself? I dunno, but I've met some cool people that way so I won't knock it, too hard.

I guess I'm just not at the point of wanting to pay to meet people, so until such a time that I am convinced that the free options just ain't working, I'll go with what's available.

Without further ado: the profile!

About you:

I'm "that girl". You know the one, the one who is sweet and sometimes too nice, the one who loves to nurture the people in her life, who wakes up with a smile on her face most days, who loves to laugh, who is silly, who is faithful to a fault, who gives until she can't give anymore, and who can play video games with the best of them.

I'm not normal, well if there is such a thing. I'm more likely to be in jeans and a t-shirt than anything else, music is a must have in my life, and I can be geeky. I love tattoos, have a few and plans for more. I think people are beautiful, inside and out, I'm a hobby photographer, and a nursing student. I'm mom to two beautiful kids, one who graduates this year and one in 3rd grade.

I'm not an angry person, even when I should be, and I don't do anger well. Yelling isn't in my nature, so anyone I interact with shouldn't go there easily either. Pessimism drains me, sure life can be crap, but we only have one go round so why focus on the bad, when you can find and focus on the good?

I love to dance, I think 80's night is the best thing ever, sometimes. I also love movies, and am just as good with a night on a couch watching movies with someone special as I am going out.

I can be intense, and I love to get to know people. I admit that I love to spend time with my 'someone special' and am not one who is good with once a week, unless schedules dictate that, but I also can respect someone's personal time with the guys.

I'm not into games, I'm 420 friendly but only if it's an occasional thing and not a necessity in someone else's life, I don't partake personally. I don't drink, and I don't do any other drugs either. I'm probably the least materialistic person I know, so as long as you can hold your own financially we'll get along just fine. I don't need to be wined and dined, but romanticism is welcome-as is creativity.

I'm not into dating a bunch of people at once, I'm past that in life. Things either click, or they don't. No need to waste time if it doesn't, but friends are always a welcome thing in my life! And I'm not into casual sex, at all.

I am not a barbie, I am not Roseanne Barr. I'm curvy, short, and working to get to where *I* want to be body wise, but I'm not ashamed of where I am now.

I believe in love, even if it hasn't always worked out right for me in the past. I am on good terms with almost all of my exes, which is important to me. I don't think you should hate someone you once loved if you can help it.

Eh, there's more, but you'll have to write to find out what!

Disclaimer about the updates section

Oook, before I get anyone's pants in a bunch, I should explain. The updates section will be used for a tongue-in-cheek somewhat sarcastic and meant to be funny look at some of the situations I find here on POF. Please do not get your feelings hurt, or think I'm a super b*itch if any of the situations described pertain to you or things you may have done/said on here before (to me or not). I'm sarcastic in my humor, and I am writing things down that make me laugh. If I can't laugh at myself and the situations I find myself in, what can I laugh about? So, go with it. Laugh more. Life's too short to be upset and angry!

*Update 1* Ok maybe I need to be a bit more clear from some of the messages I've gotten on what I am looking for. Ultimately I am seeking a long term relationship, however that takes time to build-so when I am meeting people here I am going into things with the only expectation being making a new friend.

I'm not about to meet someone with the idea that they are 'the one', that would be premature-and expectations ruin things. I don't believe you can have a successful relationship that lasts long term without really knowing the person before jumping into it. So, if you're good with being friends, feel free to message me!

Er, this is for all of those guys who have messaged me asking what I'm looking for, and when I say the above they respond with "ok I'll never message you again". Wow, thanks buddy! I'm quite certain that I wasn't offensive, and if the concept of being friends is that upsetting..well I'd really recommend some time away. Or medication. Or both.

Not sure I'm all about meeting someone who already has our wedding date planned before he even knows my middle name. I mean, really, middle names are important..Very important.

*Update 2* Er, so I'll need to clarify on the 80s night thing. No, this does not mean I will be "Dirty Dancing" with you. No I'm not interested in how you "Beat It". I will dance with you with the appropriate amount of space between us, but beware, I will make you look like a silly white boy on that dance floor because I channel Michael Jackson when I'm out there..no, really, I do. (In my head anyway).

*Update 3*Ok so apparently this is also a video game where you can get points and win. I'm competitive, so I desperately want to beat my friend who currently has 1900 points. I'm not sure how you get points here, is it the number of profiles you click? The number of people you message? The number who messages you? I'm not sure, so if you know message me and I will be a happy panda. Must. win. Must. win. the PoF game.

*Update 4* So, my PoF friends and fans, if when we meet to hang out you are so busy texting 5000 other girls that there are many awkward turtle moments of silence in our conversation, and you decide to share that they are inviting you to come join them in the shower...well, that's great and all but be prepared for the fact that we are just going to be friends. Sexting may be awesome to you, but sexting while out with someone else-eeeh, not so much! Just sayin...

What would you do on a first date?

On a first date it would depend on the person, coffee, a movie, dancing..I'm not picky!

*Update* Well ok I'm a little picky, so it'd have to be somewhere public, at least until I can verify that you're not some creeper. And it'd have to be something that required clothing, 'cause I'm not all about being naked right off the bat (or soon after, for those who are hoping otherwise).


*********Please note****************
I do have a life outside this little square box with keys that brings me such joy. This means sometimes I'm sitting down for 2 seconds, and I click to read your message.

If I don't respond right away, that means I didn't have time to-so if you feel the need to block me immediately after you see that I have read, but not responded, then please see update #1 about time away and medication.

If I don't respond after a few days, then try messaging me again-if you're not blocked it means I may have missed your message, or forgotten to respond to it..if you ARE blocked? Please see update #1 about time away and medication, because it would take a lot of super creeperness to make me block someone.